About making big changes

It's easy to say you want to stop drinking. Indeed it's easy for any of us to have good intentions.

I've sat in consulting rooms with hundreds of people who have told me that they are 'absolutely determined' to stop drinking this time. Unfortunately many have fallen out of treatment shortly afterwards, having failed to think through what that really meant.

I also notice that when people think or say 'I want to stop drinking', they really mean 'I'd like drinking to stop causing me problems'. Which is totally different!

When the consequences of drinking become inconvenient or disastrous, then at least considering change becomes unavoidable.

When you're at this point, a dastardly trick you can play on yourself is just to make superficial changes to minimise the consequences of your drinking, until they're small enough to resolve any dissonance in your mind, and then you can take the easiest route, which is to carry on drinking. Don't just move the furniture around like this. Clear everything out and start again.